Lisa Ugray

Lisa Ugray

Trigger warning: self-harm

mylittlebaneling:

flayotters:

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Firstly, why did you put a trigger warning on this xx? [It] isn’t self-harm, it’s self-repair. 

In the context of a trigger warning, it doesn’t matter whether you view it as self-repair or self-harm, it matters whether there’s a significant chance that someone else viewing it be triggered for self-harm, and I thought there was.

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slutrockerbitch:

Omgomg want

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FISTING AND LIMP WRISTING: Trans*: The trans asterisk

life-in-neon:

Lately I’ve seen people explaining this simply as “it’s a more inclusive term” and leaving it at that. But there’s a reason it’s seen as more inclusive: the asterisk. And that asterisk makes an important change to the meaning.

An asterisk is a wildcard character in computing….

I’ve seen some interesting dialogue on this, suggesting that it is in fact less inclusive having been born in predominantly white spaces in universities and colleges, and therefore being a term that many don’t identify with. Also, umbrella terms can sometimes cross a line into taking away somebody’s ability to self identify, since you’re essentially saying that if you identify within one of these subcategories, well then I’m going to call you this. The only definition I’m truly comfortable with for labels is that it refers to people who identify as such - though that can leave things open for appropriation. So while labels are useful - am I ever glad I could search for trans (and trans*; I’m that kind of geek!) - I hesitate to take them too far.

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Hmm. Some major food for thought.

From the article:

Furthermore, how do we handle the rising popularity of Queer Studies programs and departments? The transition from queer culture, which happens “in the streets” at community centers, feminist theaters, gay bookstores, to queer studies, which happens only inside colleges and universities, means that queer young people no longer, as they would in a bygone era, turn 18 and become an “asset” to the community, transferring value in monetary and non-monetary ways to those community centers, theaters and bookstores. Instead those 18-year-olds become assets for the University, transferring immense wealth to that Corporation. Queer Studies classes serve the Corporation by drawing interested students to the University. They also make it easier to harvest tuition from queers’ assets, by legitimizing universities as they place to be when you “discover yourself” and create queerness. Graduate students who think they are getting a “free ride” to write about queers actually serve as the cheapest fertilizer that the farmer can buy. My friends, be sure that even partial tuition scholarships are BOGO coupons, not a recognition of your outstanding academic merits.



lizdexia:

Hey guys. So I want to talk to you about one of the greatest heroines ever written for young adult literature, and that is A Series of Unfortunate Events’ Violet Baudelaire.

In any discussion of women in YA lit, there are basically three names that come up: Bella Swan (generally derided as weak and useless), Hermione Granger (whom everyone agrees is THE BESTEST!!!!), and Katniss Everdeen (jury’s still out on that one, but the consensus as far as I’ve seen is that feminist bloggers and Twilight haters alike super love her). Violet rarely comes up, which I think is a shame, because I would argue that she’s perhaps better written than all three of those other young women.

Note that I’m not saying she’s a better woman. This isn’t one of those posts where someone tries to empirically prove that this character is TOTALLY BETTER than that character, because I find that sort of thing dull and counterproductive. I’m not trying to pit different ladies against each other, because I’m generally against that sort of thing (though I don’t think having a preference between two female characters or real-life women makes you sexist). This is more of an exploration on how young women are treated in books geared toward tweens, and how we could all perhaps take a lesson from Daniel Handler (a male writer, interestingly enough) in this arena.

The first thing that strikes me when analyzing ASOUE from a feminist perspective is that Violet is, of course, a skilled inventor, a field in which you don’t see many fictional women. A different writer might have stuck to more “traditional” gender roles and cast Violet as the bookish wordsmith and Klaus as the science-minded inventor, but wouldn’t that have been boring, really? The boy tinkers around in his laboratory and invents things that save the day, and his sister occasionally correctly defines a word. Boring. But what’s even more interesting to me is that Violet, despite having tremendous skill in a traditionally “non-feminine” area, is never presented as The Exceptional Woman, which is perhaps my least favorite trope in fiction, one that has ruined countless characters for me (Veronica Mars, Ginny Weasley, River Song). Rather, each of the kids in the book has one particular skill that saves everyone else’s asses at least once, and even among the girls, they’re evenly split between the “feminine” (Sunny the cook, Isadora the poet) and the “masculine” (Violet the inventor, Fiona the mycologist).

Furthermore, her looks are only commented on once or twice, and always by another character — never by herself or the narrator. This is significant. Young women in literature are almost always given a thorough physical description, whether it’s fawning or, more commonly, one of those “So-and-so was hardly beautiful — in fact, she was really rather plain, with boring brown eyes and long dark hair that fell into her face” deals that contemporary authors love. Even in Harry Potter and The Hunger Games, Katniss and Hermione’s appearances are mentioned quite a few times. But in ASOUE, none of the Baudelaire kids are really described in detail, aside from Klaus’s glasses (which are often a plot point) and Violet tying up her hair when she has to think. THIS IS HUGE. I don’t know if I’m making a mountain out of a molehill here, but honestly, it’s so refreshing to see a teenage girl character who isn’t defined in any way by her looks, whether beautiful or exceptionally “plain.” It simply doesn’t matter; she’s got 99 problems but a zit ain’t one. Similarly, while she and Klaus both get romantic subplots with tertiary characters, they never threaten to take over the actual plot. These kids are kind of busy trying to escape a crapton of people who want them dead, and there’s not a ton of time left over to moon over Quigley Quagmire (though I loved their little romance, don’t get me wrong!).

Furthermore, LET’S TALK ABOUT THE MORAL AMBIGUITY OF THIS CHARACTER. There are quite a few moments in the books wherein Violet and Klaus discuss whether or not their actions — causing lots of deaths, burning down the carnival and the Hotel Denouement, et cetera — mean that they’re just as bad as the people from whom they’re running. I mean, there have probably been lots of essays written about how smart these books are (come on, it’s essentially a kids’ book series about ethical relativism!) but honestly, how often in the lit world, kids’ or adults’, do you see teenage female characters struggling with these kinds of huge moral issues? Not particularly often, to my knowledge.

This obviously isn’t the most well-written little post and I’m probably going to revise it a bunch of times until it’s actually a smart piece of analysis and not just a FEELINGS GEYSER about a criminally underrated kids’ book series, but for now, I’m just going to post it and that’s that.

The end, but not really.



veuxveuxpas:

Oh haiiiiiii, just me and my butt.

This one is for Lisa, to celebrate our fucking intense/awesome/emotional/liberating first while of transition. Of course, I got it on my right cheek hehehe. We were inspired by Red Durkin’s video, which kind of summed up our experiences a lot, especially early on :p

Taking pictures of your own but, it turns out, is pretty difficult.

:D






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Poutine

Even when made with what passes for curds this far west, it is delicious.



i thought LGBT was a sandwich

mylittlebaneling:

lacigreen:

rgrutan:

i thought LGBT was a sandwich

Lettuce, Glitter, Bacon, Tomato?

FAAAABULOOOOOUSSSSS!

i’ll have extra glitter, plz.

Whenever you buy them they always leave out the tomato, and also you can only get it on white bread.

OMFSM - Yes to latest commentary.

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Derogatory terms do not merely signify; they assault. Their intention is to harm. Thus they are not solely discursive signs or linguistic statements but also modes of aggression. They express a structure of power and domination, a hierarchy that contextualises them and gives them their force. As gestures of assault they reflect their user’s status as a member of the dominant group. The derogatory term does more than speak; it silences. …Those racially subjected have no viable means of defending themselves. This, in effect, renders the derogation unanswerable in its own terms.

The derogatory term obtrudes with a small daily violence whose form is gratuitous, without motivation in the situation in which it is used, and whose content is to render that situation dominated by white supremacy. If it sits at the heart of the language of racism it is because it is banal and everyday even while symbolising racism’s utmost violence, the verbal form of its genocidal trajectory.

Those who use derogatory terms repeatedly are putting themselves in a continual state of aggression; turning their objective complicity with a structured relation of white supremacist dominance into an active investment or affirmation. Such modes of assault demonstrate a specific obsession with those denigrated that characterises the socius of white supremacy, its demands for allegiance, its conditions of membership, its residence in viciousness.

– Jared Sexton and Steve Martinot (2003) ‘The Avant-Garde of White Supremacy’ Social Identities 9.2 p. 174 (emphases and paragraph breaks added). (via james-bliss) Via TAL9000


invertsugar:

femmeflagging:

So I heard someone wanted an unambiguous way to flag being queer…

Well, this isn’t what I meant at all.

The whole idea of the hanky code, on which femme flagging is purportedly based, is that it was a CODE, decipherable only by those in the community.

This…is not that.

I know this, but I tend to agree with the mod over at femmeflagging that we’ll never have everyone agreeing on a consistent code - the hanky code itself has many conflicting versions. And I don’t think we should be shooting for a consistency that could only ever be dictated from above. So I just decided to do this for fun.



So I heard someone wanted an unambiguous way to flag being queer…

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